I have discovered that by being mindful of the language I use - and using positive language - modifying negative thoughts really changes my mood and outlook.
negative examples: I don't want to smoke.
positive: I want to live a long healthy life. I can live smoke-free.
negative: I don't think this relationship is working out.
positive: I think it's best we both go our separate ways.
disempowering language: I don't have enough time.
empowering language: I make time for things that are important to me.
The difference between winners and losers in this life is losers focus on what they don't want, don't like, fear, phobia, et al - get the picture? Winners focus on what they want. With empowering language one is taking responsibility for more than is possible with disempowering language. Even if you think this stuff is bunk, I challenge you to try it - it's free!
Friday, July 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
haha... I live overseas and don't have a TV... now that I'm back in the States babysitting my mom's dog while she's away I started watching Gene Simmons' of KISS' reality TV show. Now Gene Simmons was the architect of the KISS brand - a shrewd businessman - he succeeded in creating an empire, the KISS Army. He has a reputation for being arrogant, womanizing and controlling. I have always admired Gene's business-sense although his music never went beyond party rock. I could imagine that while he was a famous rock star millionaire that people had to be nice to in Hollywood he probably had few close friends. And NOW I've watched a bit of the reality show Gene Simmons Family Jewels - this is a lot better than the Osbournes (If Ozzy bit Sharon's head off and then died of rabies that would be GREAT REALITY TV). And it seems all along Gene Simmons has simply been trying to be successful to prove to his father that he didn't need him. This is a person I didn't think I'd ever like. In the episodes I watched, Gene goes to his native Israel and connects with his long lost half-brother, half-sisters and visits his father's grave - Gene never knew his father - he grew up believing his father left him (apparently that wasn't exactly the case) a pain that crystallized into the "The Demon" character he created for KISS.